Put two men in a space ship traveling our galaxy for 20 years and after splash down, the only thing they’ll know about each other is how much they like Derek Jeter. Put two women in a stalled elevator for 20 minutes and they’ll know each other’s marital status, number of children, favorite shoe sales, problems with stretch marks (if their younger-problems with acne) and when their next periods are due or how they’re coping with hot flashes. It’s just the way we are. I’m not saying men don’t...Read More
One More Thing Before I Go
Last spring when the scent of lilacs followed me from the backyard into my kitchen, I thought of my mother’s distant cousin and her daughters, who, like my lilacs, visited yearly when the earth warmed and the days grew longer. I pictured us all in idyllic memories of jump rope games and playing with dolls. But, except for MaryAnn, the littlest daughter, I could not remember their names.
A few years ago, I could have called my mother. She would have teased me for my forgetfulness, asked what I was making for dinner (there was never a phone conversation where we didn’t talk about food) and repeated her mother-to-daughter mantra, “When are you coming over?” We would have shared stories of those long-ago days before hanging-up and re-joining our lives. But my mother has passed on and while the images of our family lingers-the details are lost. I write One more thing before I go, my living record for my son, in hope that one day, when he has a question I can no longer answer, it can be found in this blog.